Oladapo in a recent interview with City People
reveals how she got pregnant when she was in
secondary school and how her baby later died at 18
months.
Hon. Oladapo opens up about what how she handled
the death of her child and what she did to change her
life.
Read below
"While I was in secondary school, I was a brilliant
student. In my primary school I came second best
student in our G2 exams but unfortunately, I started
moving with some people who were more
experienced and exposed than I was. One way or the
other, I got pregnant when I was in SS1.
The person who was responsible denied it because I
was young and naive. I usually keep to myself a lot.
My parents didn't know I was pregnant after four
months and the guy also didn't know until about 4
months, although he equally impregnated about 2
other girls at the same time. He was a big boy in
secondary school, the Senior Prefect, very brilliant.
It all started by exchanging novels and textbooks. I
had to leave Akute where my parents stayed to live
with my paternal grandfather in Kajola, a small
village which was hard for me to endure because the
viallage had nothing. I had my baby in December
1991. After the naming of the baby, my family held a
meeting and asked me what I wanted to do and I told
them I wanted to go back to school. My paternal
grandmother was totally against it, simply because
she felt it was a waste sending a girl child to school
after what I had done but my father was ready to
give me another chance which I will forever be
grateful for. I enrolled in a school not far from my
house because of my baby and I repeated my class.
Unfortunately, the child died at 18months in 1993. It
was like double jeopardy for me, nothing to show for
the stigma and missing school. When he was buried,
I went to his grave and requested from God to help
me because I was determined to be successful which
was like a vow. I even cursed the boy who got me
pregnant because he denied the pregnancy, that he
would not be greater than me in life. I don't know his
level now but I am grateful for what I am today.
I have forgiven him. After my secondary school, I
decided to leave home to begin my journey. In 1998,
I was admitted into the University of Lagos, things
were tight for me then but someone introduced me
to a job which was thrift collecting and daily
contribution. I started working there and for years, I
collected daily contributions in Ketu market and
some other popular markets in Lagos state. I didn't
have enough time to attend classes. I had to trek
some places so my money would be enough. It was
while I was working as a thrift collector, while coming
from the office one day I stopped at my mother's
shop to take some foodstuff from her shop.
I met a man there who bought most of the foodstuffs
and we started talking. That was the man I married
and we have two kids. After then, my life changed"
she said.
Sent From David Aniemeka
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